It’s two days after Valentine’s Day, which means that we are still recovering from a digital blitz of couple photos that engulfed our feeds alongside heartfelt captions about love, luck and destined life partnership. While I see absolutely nothing wrong with this collective proclamation of love (in, fact, I
I don’t know a single person who has posted about their relationship problems on social media - but I know quite a few that suddenly wiped all the smiling photos, proclamations of eternal love, and all traces of their partner from their feeds. Social media has made people hell bent on showing the best version of themselves - the aspirational vision board is an excellent analogy - but in that regard, they also want people to think that their partners are perfect too.
Social media aside, the whole paragraph on how it takes time and work to understand each other’s damaged parts is *chef's kiss* - absolutely perfectly stated. My partner and I didn’t have our first big fight until about three years in, during the exhausted and anxious stage that inevitably follows the birth of your first child - and I was shocked to learn that we have very, very different fighting styles, stemming from very different personality traits. But hopefully you both learn (I'm still learning) and you take something away from each fight to help de-escalate things more effectively next time (of course there will be a next time.) There are some things about your partner that you can only learn by fighting with them.
Love this! Just watched the documentary about the Gabrielle Venora Petito’s murder (a prime yet extreme example). It used to be “you never know what goes on behind closed doors” now it is “behind the posts.” I too agree the taboo needs to go just like mental health we all have our challenges. We need to remind ourselves everyone is human and it’s ok to show vulnerability.
I don’t know a single person who has posted about their relationship problems on social media - but I know quite a few that suddenly wiped all the smiling photos, proclamations of eternal love, and all traces of their partner from their feeds. Social media has made people hell bent on showing the best version of themselves - the aspirational vision board is an excellent analogy - but in that regard, they also want people to think that their partners are perfect too.
Social media aside, the whole paragraph on how it takes time and work to understand each other’s damaged parts is *chef's kiss* - absolutely perfectly stated. My partner and I didn’t have our first big fight until about three years in, during the exhausted and anxious stage that inevitably follows the birth of your first child - and I was shocked to learn that we have very, very different fighting styles, stemming from very different personality traits. But hopefully you both learn (I'm still learning) and you take something away from each fight to help de-escalate things more effectively next time (of course there will be a next time.) There are some things about your partner that you can only learn by fighting with them.
Love this! Just watched the documentary about the Gabrielle Venora Petito’s murder (a prime yet extreme example). It used to be “you never know what goes on behind closed doors” now it is “behind the posts.” I too agree the taboo needs to go just like mental health we all have our challenges. We need to remind ourselves everyone is human and it’s ok to show vulnerability.